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Finding the Right Partner

Know Your Goals

Let me tell you one thing before we start: before you start your dating search, you must know what you are looking for in a mate and you must be confident with what you have to offer. Being unsure in either of these areas will make your dating experience frustrating and time-consuming. Moreover, you will frustrate the person you are dating: if you don’t know where you are going, they will not know either.

Note down qualities you would like in your mate here:

  • Age
  • Marital status
  • Children
  • Nationality
  • Mother language / foreign languages
  • Race
  • Religion
  • Character traits
  • Skills & talents
  • Appearance
  • Alcohol / nicotine consumption
  • Profession
  • Income
  • Hobbies
  • Sports activities
  • Social behaviour
  • Other important

A Word About Compromises

Mark the qualities that are essential to you and do not compromise on these points. On some points you may be willing to compromise, while others you may not find desirable at all. You may change the requirements for your desired mate in the process of finding your best match. Just make sure you are not compromising the qualities that are really important to you, as you will probably regret it later in your relationship.

Find Out Who You Are

Make a list of the qualities that best describe you. Be honest to yourself and to your prospective date about them. Dishonesty will be discovered, you can be sure about that. When you are honest about the positive and less positive characteristics of yourself, identify those you can change in order to be more appealing to the opposite sex. Out of these, find the ones you are willing to change NOW. Do not set your goals too high, as you may become frustrated. Aim for small, realistic goals. Reaching them will make you feel better and enable you to tackle the medium-sized goals a little later.

Practical Tips for a Personal Ad

Now you can write a good description of yourself for your target person when filling out your personal profile. It does not have to be a list; feel free to be inventive. Keep in mind that great poetry may be hard to understand if the other person has to read a machine-translated version of it. In a personal ad, try to be simple and to the point. It is worth the effort to write a few well-chosen words about who you are and who you are looking for, as this will pique others' interest in you. If you rely on your photographs alone and ask others to write you in order to get any information about you, chances are that others will be contacted in preference to you. In a sense, the same is true for the pictures you include in your profile: provide some no-nonsense pictures that show you dressed nicely in good daylight. Let them see your face. The cathedral you may be posing in front of is of minor importance to your prospective date. Smile at them. You want to make them fall in love with you!

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